Dating #chemistry versus beauty

For some, it's all about looks, innit? It’s easier to believe that appearance is the be-all and end-all when it comes to finding a partner. We all have a laundry list of physical attributes that the potential mate must possess, and anything less just won't do. A bold man? Nope, not interested.

A short man? Definitely not on my radar. And a fat dude? Absolutely out of the question.

But what we fail to realize is that true connection and amazing experiences aren't dependent on outward appearances alone. It's the moments that defy our expectations, the ones that challenge our preconceived notions, that often end up being the most incredible.

Have you ever had mind-blowing sex with a complete stranger you randomly picked up in a bar while under the influence? It may sound wild and unconventional, but let me tell you, it can be absolutely mind-blowing. In that moment, inhibitions are tossed aside and pleasure takes center stage. It's a thrilling and unforgettable experience that can leave you in awe.

Or how about sleeping with that friend, that guy you swore you never would? The one you never saw in that way, but somehow ended up entangled in a passionate moment? Surprisingly, it can turn out to be the best sex of your life. There's something about the unexpected connection and familiarity that can ignite a fire within, creating an experience like no other.

And let's not forget those who once judged others for their appearance, only to discover a hidden gem beneath the surface. Maybe you were reluctant to give that fat dude a chance, but when he made his move during a vulnerable moment, it turned out to be the best cuddle buddy you've ever known (you lousy fatshamer). Sometimes, the most satisfying encounters come from unexpected sources, reminding us that beauty is not only skin deep.

Of course, there are also those instances when we have been attracted to someone based on their outward appearance, only to be utterly disappointed in the bedroom. It's a harsh reality that even the most physically captivating individuals can lack the skills and passion that truly ignite our desires. Looks may catch our attention, but it's the chemistry and connection that keep us hooked.

I can't help but reminisce about that surfer-looking boy I kissed on the beach when I was sixteen. He had green eyes, long hair, and a V-shaped back that made heads turn. Though he ended up dumping me after just two days, those two days were enough to leave a lasting impression. He made me feel special, like I was the chosen one in his eyes. It took me a couple of years to get over him, but he set the standard for what I believed was desirable.

It wasn't until much later that my perspective shifted. I met a man who didn't fit society's conventional beauty standards. He was overweight and didn't resemble the guy he once was when he modeled for a ski brand (when he was 17). But let me tell you, the sex we had was beyond anything I could have imagined. It was passionate, raw, and filled with a connection that transcended physical appearance. In that moment, I learned that true satisfaction comes from embracing the unexpected, from letting go of superficial judgments, and from opening ourselves up to the possibility of pure ecstasy.

So, for those who believe that looks are everything, perhaps it's time to take a step back and reconsider. The best experiences and connections often come from the most unlikely places. It's time to let go of rigid standards and embrace the beauty that lies within each unique individual. After all, it's what's inside that truly counts.

And always in Maison Libertine!